So, you’ve signed up with a dating site, filled in the profile information, even found a potential match to establish contact with and got stuck with the writing an initial email? Don’t panic! Everybody feels the same when they try to say the first ‘Hello’ to an object of their adoration. And lots of those who referred to online dating for older adults went along the path you did. Yet, with the number of advisor sites at hand and online tutorials, their issues got an immediate resolution. As a matter of fact, there’s nothing complex about writing your first letter should you read through the following tips and put them into practice.
- Check your profile info once again
Whenever you are thinking of writing an email to somebody you don’t know yet, make sure your profile information is properly compiled and contains no mistakes. We bet a person receiving your message will become intrigued and tempted to know who you are. Chances are they will look through your profile immediately to see all the relevant information. And if they find nothing to catch their eye, they will just block you. Therefore, once you are on a dating site, do your best to make your profile look appealing.
- Pick some personalized subject
It’s no secret that people love to read some pleasant comments about themselves. Thus, it’s recommended to compliment the things that draw your attention or that you find attractive about this person. As an example you may take the following sentence: “So good to know you’ve been to the same place I visited a couple of years ago. Which of the local sights have impressed you the most?”
- Don’t forget to use the name
The psychologists state that whenever you address a person using their name, it makes the establishment of contact a much easier process. Besides, this fact already gives evidence you are not just a message spammer but someone who has straightforward intentions. Consider it prior to mailing anyone.
- Ask an open question
Naturally, the best way to initiate a lively conversation is to ask questions. Yet, there are different types of those and some may just be answered with ‘yes’ or ‘no’. By all means, avoid that kind of questions. Instead, ask something that presupposes an open answer and gives you opportunity to continue dialogue.
- Try to be brief
Try to remember one thing, no one’s fond of reading page-long stories about how you happened to find this site and their profile. The message should be substantial, yet brief. 2-3 sentences is usually more than enough to draw one’s attention. This way you won’t bore your conversation partner and will leave some room for further dialogue. Besides, shorter messages are easier to check for spelling mistakes.
So, keep in mind these rules and may the luck be with you in all your personal matters!